Do not call me “man”, “dude” or “bro”.

gay-for-nygard:

mynameislyddy:

gay-for-nygard:

mynameislyddy:

gay-for-nygard:

mynameislyddy:

cctcd:

kiriamaya:

I realize that a lot of people have come to think of them as non-gendered colloquialisms, but they are still obviously rooted in maleness, and thus I don’t want them attributed to me.

Please and thank you.

Or mate or lad or any other designator that has a history of association with men.

Mate? The rest are gendered terms that we, society, often use non-genderedly, but mate just means friend… It’s a slightly boyish term, but in the same way that tomboys are boyish.

Obviously, I wouldn’t use any term that someone doesn’t want used for them, I’m just a bit baffled.

As a femme, I get pretty insulted when people use ‘blokey’ terms to refer to me.

Huh. I didn’t realise ‘blokey’ (as you call them) terms would be offensive to femme people. I guess as a not-very-femme person who hangs out with mostly also-not-very-femme people, I just use words like mate and think of my friends as mates.

Are there any femme/universal equivalents?

What’s wrong with just not using these words?

Personally I prefer the more feminine equivalents: love, hun, etc.

What do you mean, not using them? I’m saying, are there any words I could use instead for everyone, or maybe just instead for any femme friends. As in, I’m going to avoid using them for non-boyish/masculine people.

I really can’t imagine myself calling someone love or hon’ XD I use mate in sentences like “Your round, mate.” and “Ah, mate, can you lend me 50p?” and if that might make people uncomfortable, I’d use another word. Maybe not love/hon’ type words, though, they make me think of patronising aunts, creepy lorry drivers, and whichever accent it is that people say “Alright my lover” in.

‘Your round.’

‘Can you lend me 50p?’

‘Are you alright?’

It’s not that difficult to omit the surplus words and prevents pissing people off.

That can be impersonal. But I guess if I’ll have to do that for femme friends. You probably wouldn’t like to be in a group of friends refered to as “you fuckers” though. Things like that do depend a lot on group dynamic.

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2012

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  1. missksugarheartbelljar reblogged this from oldrebelpachelbel
  2. grimseer reblogged this from rendezvousordie and added:
    You say that we are degendering man-bro-dude then, but what about the female counterpart of those words? Would you ever...
  3. purplegoesbothways reblogged this from grimseer and added:
    totally understandable why...trans woman wouldn’t want
  4. weird-kid-in-the-corner reblogged this from cocktopimp and added:
    Dude, bro, chill the fuck out.
  5. twin-spica reblogged this from aircalibur
  6. aircalibur reblogged this from rendezvousordie and added:
    can’t forget this guy: or the Holy Broman Empire or Broseph of Arimathea you know, all those bros of history
  7. bahnubee reblogged this from princegaspard and added:
    ‘Bro’ ‘dude’ ‘man’ etc are so genderless now, most people just say them without thinking. I say it to people I don’t...
  8. tluthal reblogged this from notasenator and added:
    I am adoring that Anne Broleyn. Yessss.
  9. fearcutsdeeperthanswords reblogged this from notasenator
  10. ironlassoftime reblogged this from sppandaaa and added:
    I just use dude as a general exclamation these days. I agree that it doesn’t matter, but if someone doesn’t want to be...
  11. notasenator reblogged this from rendezvousordie and added:
    Slow your roll, Brodysseus.
  12. rendezvousordie reblogged this from sppandaaa and added:
    I think… It’s actually kind...we’re degendering dude-man-bro? So yeah,
  13. homostuckhomestuck reblogged this from themostchill and added:
    I call everyone Babe, BB, love, bro, broski, chump (yes, everyone), sweetcakes, lover, and max. I call everyone all of...
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  18. themostchill reblogged this from the-artist-formerly-known-as-jd and added:
    Now this is something that has come to my attention. I’m a friendly guy and sometimes, I want to use a word to the same...
  19. turntechgodkid reblogged this from the-artist-formerly-known-as-jd and added:
    (if you wanna pull that thats cool but then id like to voice my opinion i dont like being called cute or adorable im a...
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